In this world of over-excited beings, there are some people who love to take the back seat. If “silent spectator” was a title, they would be best suited for it. They live in silence and survive in noise.
They are both “Monk by the sea” in Friedrich’s painting and the frustrated persona trying to escape the party in Alessia Cara’s song “Here”. Their calmness might make someone cringe but for them, it’s their treasure. Yes, we are talking about Introverts.
Introverts love to revel in the art of observation. Social interaction is not their cup of tea but when they do talk, it’s a spectacle worth ‘watching’. Susan Cain’s speech on introversion at TEDx is still fresh in our minds. She made a way for people to understand what does it means to be an introvert. Man! She explained it well.
A lot of people believe that only people who are social and speak can survive the competition but that’s not the case. As Susan Cain explained, “There is a zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas”.
For some people, Introverts are nothing more than boring. Biased perception has always proved to be harmful and nowhere does it seem more evident than in the case of introverts. Often seen as spoilsports, they are always judged keeping extroverts as an index. Even the stars in our galaxy have identities but we humans are bit unfortunate. With so many people on one planet, how do we still expect everyone to be the same?
Contemplation is an art that needs practice but for some people, it is their trait. If you have an introvert as a friend, you will understand what we are talking about. An introvert is the best listener. He/She does not listen to reply. Instead, introverts take in each and every word you say and try to understand things from your perspective. Superficial facts don’t work for them.
Introverts hate small talk and love deep conversation. If you and your introvert pal have the same taste in music, there are chances that you’ll get a thesis on songs and multiple interpretations of lyrics you might have not imagined. They stimulate imagination and does everything to stimulate theirs.
Not agreeing to the ways of the world offers a fascinating perspective. But being able to see right through what we have been taught to believe is both a boon and a bane. That’s why a lot of introverts go through the phase called “existential crisis”.
People who are aware of their nature and are comfortable with it get on with their lives without any problem. They learn to accept themselves and carve a niche for themselves.But people, especially teenagers who are still in that phase where they are discovering things, it might be pretty difficult to survive.
When everyone is laughing and having the best time, introverts during the nascent stage might find a fault in him/herself for not behaving like others do. But when they do realize that they love to enjoy laughing when they are doing it with people they are close to and don’t mind hanging out with themselves, they are most confident people you will get a chance to interact with.
Don’t confuse their love for being alone with narcissism. Like you might need friends to rejuvenate and come back with a fresh mind at work, introverts need alone time, also called “spacing out” to come back to work.
The difference is what makes us beautiful. The difference is what define us. Respect an introvert and befriend them. We bet you’ll never regret it.