I have a thing for music playlists.
I enjoy music and sometimes they can be a distraction from what’s going on in my life. When I was in high school, I used to have a ‘sad songs‘ playlist, filled with your typical break up and emo songs such as ‘The Ghost of You‘ by My Chemical Romance, ‘She will be loved‘ by Maroon 5, and who could forget ‘Big Girls Don’t Cry‘ by Fergie.
But something happened this year that I’ve decided that I don’t want to cry anymore. I’m already 20 so stuff like this shouldn’t bother me as much as it used to so I’ve decided to make a new playlist showing that I will get through this.
2018 = No more sad songs
I call this playlist the “F*ck you playlist”.
What’s in the new playlist?
As I’m writing this right now, there are currently 35 songs in this playlist but for the sake of this post, I will recommend the songs that matter the most. These songs ARE NEEDED to be in this type of playlist. And to make it more interesting, it will be categorised and revolve around the 5 stages of grief (because you’re still grieving).
Note – these songs shouldn’t make you cry but to empower you.
Denial – Till I Forget About You by Big Time Rush
Oh Big Time Rush, that Nickelodeon show that I really enjoyed watching. Dare I say… it was better than Jonas over in Disney (please don’t kill me). Till I forget about you is a good start when you’re trying to let go as you may be in denial about the whole thing, wishing it didn’t happen, you now vow yourself to do whatever it takes to let go, even if it will be hard.
Honourable Mention: No More Sad Songs by Little Mix
Anger – Bust Your Windows by Glee
You are pissed and you have the right to be. You just want to yell at them, burn things that remind you of them… or in my case, buy a cheap ukulele and smash it all over the place. But rather than lashing out, listen to a song that could relate to how you feel.
Bust Your Windows is a really good song for this as it reflects all the damage you want to do. All the things you could wish to do to lash out your anger knowing that if you really do it in practice, it doesn’t solve anything.
Honourable Mention: Gives you Hell by All-American Rejects
Bargaining – Express Yourself by Glee
What if for some random reason, you’ve been given the chance to take things back to the way it were? After everything you’ve been through, the emotional and mental pain, is it worth it?
Express Yourself to me is a song where the person needs to be tested to see if they’re worth returning in your life. You need to be with people who wouldn’t hurt you.
(P.S. I like the Glee version better)
Honourable Mention: Run the World (Girls) by Beyonce
Depression – Go Away by 2NE1
May I just say that the music video for this song is very relatable to me.
I fell in love with 2NE1 and this song made me fall in love with them. Depression doesn’t alway have to be you crying or feeling bad for yourself but rather just slightly reminiscing about what happened. Go Away to me is being able to face those memories that’s forcing you to be depressed and just saying ‘Go Away’.
I suggest the English cover if you can’t understand the Korean version.
Honourable Mention: If I Were Sorry by Frans
Acceptance – Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) by Kelly Clarkson
I played this song in repeat for quite some time recently and just being able to be free from the pain and the tears is really liberating. Remember, an end of a friendship or a relationship or anything in similar doesn’t mean the end for you, but rather a beginning. So what if things didn’t end up well, it doesn’t mean you should dwell on it. Better things are on the horizon.
Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) speaks for itself. Don’t let this pain and incident define you, learn from it and continue living your life the way you want it to be. Show that you are stronger.
Honourable Mention: Monsters by Saara Aalto
This playlist helped me to feel better and reflect more on my life and right now, I’m recovering faster than I used to be in past experiences. I don’t want to let moments like this keep me down any longer so now, I just have to prove that I am stronger.
This year… no more sad songs.
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