Are you female or male? Or are you non-binary? Gender fluid? Are you white or a person of color? Are you straight or part of the LGBT+ community? Skinny or thick? What do you identify as? It seems to me that everything we are is a label.
We are labeled by our genders, sexualities, appearance, and culture among millions of other things. It doesn’t make sense to me, so in my mind I don’t fit in to any label. I don’t identify as a girl or a boy, but I’m not non-binary or gender fluid. I don’t let any labels truly define who I am. I want to be more than just one word.
Who I love is something that I definitely feel shouldn’t be squeezed into one word. I love whomever I feel attracted to. Personally, I don’t understand the point of labeling oneself as straight, gay, bisexual, pansexual, etc. I love people. That’s all there is to it. You could say I’m pansexual or bisexual, but to me it doesn’t matter. I don’t feel the need to label my sexuality.
In a way, this article is me coming out. I’ve never told anyone that I love both genders. It’s been hinted, but I’ve never known what to call myself or how to explain that I don’t want to be called anything. I’m a person who loves people. That’s it.
Don’t need get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with coming to terms with your identity. You can be whoever you want to be and love whoever you want. More importantly, you can call yourself whatever you want to be called. It’s also okay if you don’t want a label to define your love or gender. Even if others think you’re foolish, the only person whose opinion should matter is your own.
Some of this may sound dumb or foolish to some of you, but it makes sense to me. I think that’s all that really matters, right?