“This may be slightly mean to say but I’m getting tired of my friends and am looking to branch out and make new ones. I’ve come to be so comfortable around them though, that I don’t know anything about putting myself out there? I’m shy. But I just don’t think I have anything in common with them anymore. What do I do??” – Laila.
Hi Laila, we appreciate your submission!
Sometimes we tend to drift away from the people who we thought we’d be close to forever. This doesn’t turn your past friendship with them into something unjustified – it simply means that as we grow up and begin to find our own path, they’re not always going to remain as parallel as we promised.
Life has a funny way of surprising us; both pleasant and unpleasant. The most important thing however, is your reaction to the situation and how you choose to handle it. We would hate to hear about any friendships ending on bad terms – especially when there are no specifics involved, just maturity and realizations.
If your gut is telling you that it’s time to move on, then don’t bother looking for validation from anyone else – that’s only going to lead to more frustration/confusion and above anything, make you want to remain in a place you no longer want to be. Breaking through the invisible shell we have over ourselves is certainly no easy task, but it’s also not an impossible one. And once you get through the hump of fear, you’ll start to wonder why you were so afraid in the first place.
There’s no really “easy” or “specific” way to break it down, unfortunately. You kind of just have to put yourself out there and say, “I don’t really care what anyone else thinks of me. And if they have something negative to say about it, do I even want them as a friend?” We promise you will feel it when you’ve found the people you’ve been looking for.
Also, honesty goes farther than anything else. So with that being sad, we highly encourage you to tell your friends the truth about the situation and how you’ve been feeling. It hurts, no doubt. The truth is an angel dressed as the devil – that’s why the majority of us tend to lie; we’re afraid of expressing ourselves in fear that we’re going to hurt the people we love. But in the end, what matters more?
We are 100% sure you will figure this out in the way that it’s supposed to unfold. Never forget, everything happens for a reason! Good luck!