I wish I could say this is going to be easy, but I’m not a liar – it will hurt. It’ll hurt for a while, to the point where you don’t know how you can continue. But know this – that’s the worst part. And all I can say is that I’m sorry for whatever you are going through – it’s horrible, I know.
It upsets me seeing someone who is brokenhearted. In times like that, I feel insanely helpless. No matter what I say or do, nothing will help someone with a broken heart. I think it’s disgusting especially if someone decides to cheat on their partner. Leaving someone with a broken heart is bad, but I mean, destroying their perspective on love? Making them question their worth, wonder if they’ll ever be good enough for someone else again?
I don’t think being brokenhearted can solely come from a break-up – I think it can take many different forms. Over the past few months, I’ve watched myself recover from a broken heart and I’ve watched my friends do the same. It’s something everyone goes through at some point in their life.
Your lucky if you’ve never really had your heart broken. I’ll admit that I’ve been left heartbroken many times over the past few years, to the point where I didn’t think the pain would get any easier. I’m always left as being the one with a broken heart – but being brokenhearted shows how much you cared about something or someone.
The weird thing is that without explanation, one day it gets easier. You can do everything you want to try and get over someone – for instance, I’ve seen people deal with break-ups in different ways, and nothing has really worked for them. I’ve seen people go out every night, get really drunk and end up kissing every person they see, but I’ve also seen people who carry on with things and throw themselves in to work or doing something that they love to keep their mind off it all.
And I think that’s what I have learned to do. Every time I’ve been unfortunate enough to suffer with a broken heart, I fling myself in to doing something that I love, and it helps. The sad thing with being brokenhearted is that few people know about it, especially if you tend to keep it hidden. Personally, I’ve never been one to shout about my problems, and I don’t intend to start. In my view (apart from close friends), people are just nosey and just want to find out why you’re having an ‘off’ day. We are all suffering from a broken heart one way or another – just few know about it.
I’ll also say this – recovering from a broken heart is a very gradual process, and certainly isn’t something that happens overnight. It takes a lot of time, and it may not feel like you are making any progress. I didn’t realise I was almost recovered from a broken heart until I recently saw a photo of me that someone took and I didn’t realise it had been taken. I look so genuinely happy in the photo, without putting on an act or faking a smile.
You can have as many ‘off’ days as you need, you can cry until you feel that you can’t cry anymore, you can have as many duvet days as necessary, you can watch sad movies and sing along to sad songs. But, I promise you one thing; you’ll look back on this rough period and be so proud of yourself. You got through something that you thought was going to destroy you. And I guarantee, without a shadow of a doubt, that you will be a thousand times stronger.
But please, never let anyone or anything bring you down. You are worth so much more than what you are going through right now, and I promise you that it will get better and you will be stronger than ever. It might just take a little bit of time, so be patient.